Stop Wasting Your Energy: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead

There’s someone in your life you wish would change. You’ve pushed, reminded, and given advice. You’ve had the same conversation over and over.  And somehow, you’re still stuck in the same frustrating cycle of fighting, nagging, lecturing, and hoping they’ll finally do something differently.  There is a better way.   In today’s conversation, Mel sits down with renowned behavioral scientist and award-winning NYU professor Dr. Dolly Chugh to unpack the surprising science of why people resist change and what really works.   You’re going to walk away with some of the most powerful, research-backed tools Dr. Chugh teaches at NYU – tools that will change how you see difficult people, frustrating relationships, and your own ability to influence how others behave.   You’ll learn:  -The 3 things that really do help when someone you love won’t change  -The simple question to ask before giving advice – so it doesn’t backfire  -The 4-option question that reveals what someone needs from you in a difficult moment  -The relationship tool that keeps small problems from turning into 10-out-of-10 fights  -How to tell when “helping” someone is keeping them stuck  -The 2 “bodyguards” in your brain that explain why you know better but still don’t do better  -Why your brain can fight change even when you desperately want it  -The surprising role “unlearning” plays in changing a habit or behavior  If you’re exhausted from trying to change someone you love, this conversation will give you a different way forward – starting today – that feels lighter, more hopeful, and extremely doable. Your relationships will never be the same. And neither will you.  For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.  If you liked this episode, listen to this one next: How to Become More Confident, Influential, and Communicate Better With #1 Harvard Business Professor Mel also wants to tell you:   Try the 23g protein shot I drink every single morning Join 2 million readers loving my weekly newsletter - full of tips, tools, and inspiration The Let Them Theory: read the book everyone’s talking about Watch the episodes on YouTube Connect with me on Instagram Follow the show’s Instagram for clips, behind the scenes, and more Find some daily positivity on my TikTok Want zero ads? Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.