Never Say "Let Me Know If"

切勿言“若需告知”

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

2026-07-28

25 分钟
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When someone you care about is grieving, the pressure to say the right thing can be paralyzing. You want to help, but you don't want to make it worse. In this episode, I break down exactly what to say—and what not to say—when someone is dealing with profound loss. We cover why "let me know if you need anything" actually creates more burden for the grieving person, how to eliminate open-ended questions that force them to manage your emotions, and why false positivity is the fastest way to push them away. I'll give you the exact words and actions that show up for people in their darkest moments without requiring them to ask for permission. Leave me a voicemail to be featured on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ask-jefferson Join me on Supercast for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs: https://jefferson.supercast.com/ Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Tiny Health: Go to https://tinyhealth.com/jefferson for $50 off your first at-home test kit. Cozy Earth: Go to https://cozyearth.com/Jefferson and use code JEFFERSON for up to 20% off. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/ 0:00 The Pressure of Saying the Right Thing 3:18 Why You Should Never Say Let Me Know If You Need Anything 6:30 How to Show Up Without Asking for Permission 8:55 Eliminate Open Ended Questions 11:02 Don't Make Them Manage Your Emotions 14:12 The Power of Short Consistent Messages 16:33 Why False Positivity Backfires 18:04 How to Lean Into Their Pain Instead Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • If you know somebody who is grieving

  • and the first words you give them are let me know if, like let me know if you need anything,

  • let me know if there's anything I can do, listen to me, it's the wrong thing to say.

  • In this episode, I'm going to teach you much better things

  • that we're going to be able to respond to anytime somebody is dealing with grief.

  • Grief is a very hard, deep gut sensation that is not something you get over.

  • It's just something you get used to.

  • And over time, how you communicate

  • that can mean all the difference between growing closer in that relationship or losing it.

  • In this episode, we're going to have very practical takeaways and responses to give to that other.

  • Person.

  • Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher podcast.

  • This is another car talk.

  • I have made an episode before on grief specifically, but I got asked to bring it back, to run it back.

  • If you find anything that I give or say in this podcast is valuable,

  • I'm going to ask that wherever you're listening, if you would just subscribe or follow,

  • that would mean a whole lot to me.

  • Thank you very much.

  • Now, specifically on the whole, if you begin with, let me know if you need anything.

  • When somebody is going through an episode of grief.