When Someone Insults You, Ask Them This

当有人侮辱你时,问他们这个问题:你真的了解你所说的话对别人的伤害吗?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

2026-09-22

22 分钟
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The best communicators are not the ones with the fastest comeback. They are the ones who know which question to ask. In this episode, I break down how to ask better questions when someone is insulting, pushing against you, or trying to pull you into an argument. I will show you how to use clarifying questions to slow a conversation down, questions of intent to put the focus back where it belongs, and no-oriented questions to make a request without creating more resistance. You will learn how to stop giving people something to fight against and start asking questions that lead to clearer, calmer conversations. Leave me a voicemail to be featured on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ask-jefferson Join me on Supercast for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs: https://jefferson.supercast.com/ Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Athena: Go to https://athenacom/jefferson and hire a top tier EA. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • I hate to break it to you.

  • The best communicators are not the ones with the best comebacks, the most pithy responses.

  • Best communicators are the ones who ask the best questions.

  • Do you know how hard it is to find the right question?

  • Anybody can have an answer.

  • Anybody can just toss up something, even if it's not true.

  • But a question, finding the right question, takes time.

  • And it takes skill.

  • Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher podcast.

  • Today, I'm going to make you a better communicator right now because I'm going to teach you how to ask better questions

  • when somebody is insulting, when somebody is offending, when somebody is pushing against you.

  • I'm going to teach you tools right here, quick and dirty,

  • on the same type of communication questions that attorneys use, that I use in depositions, cross-examination.

  • There is a whole technique, a whole world of questions that I bet you didn't even known.

  • Today we're going to talk about it.

  • Also, would you do me a favor if this podcast, as you listen along,

  • says you think, hey, this is something that somebody else would benefit from.

  • Would you do me a favor?

  • If you care about that person, will you just send them this podcast?

  • Will you share it with them?