486 What If I'm Not Enough" Is Not a Confidence Problem (It's an Anxiety Trap) with Paul Gilmartin

如果我不足够,这不是自信问题(这是一个焦虑陷阱)——与保罗·吉尔马丁谈

Your Anxiety Toolkit - Anxiety & OCD Strategies for Everyday

2026-05-20

32 分钟
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In this episode, I sit down with Paul Gilmartin to talk about the hidden fear of "not being enough," how it quietly fuels anxiety and shame, and what actually helps us heal from it.
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  • There is a fear that sits underneath almost every anxiety symptom I have ever seen.

  • It's not panic.

  • It's not intrusive thoughts.

  • And it's not the worry about health or relationships or whether you've locked the front door.

  • It is this.

  • What if I'm not enough?

  • What if, at the end of it all, I'm just fundamentally not enough?

  • Not as a partner, not as a parent, not as a person.

  • And here is what makes this fear so insidious.

  • The harder you try to answer it, the worse it gets.

  • You seek reassurance.

  • You collect evidence.

  • You build a case for your own self-worth.

  • And it works, but just for a little while.

  • And then the doubt comes right back, and this time louder.

  • Paul Gilmartin.

  • He's the host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour and someone

  • who has sat with thousands of people in their darkest places.

  • And we are going deep into this fear,

  • where it comes from,