You Need to Disappoint More People

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The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

2026-09-01

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Disappointing people does not make you a bad person. But if you are always trying to manage everyone else's expectations, you will eventually lose sight of your own. In this episode, I break down how to say no without carrying the weight of someone else's reaction, why the feeling after the no is often harder than the no itself, and how to set a boundary without overexplaining, apologizing, or backing down. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter Thank you to our Sponsors: Gusto: Go to https://gusto.com/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON to get three months free when you run your first payroll. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • Disappointing people is a skill.

  • If you're going to be a better leader, a better communicator, a better parent,

  • a better anything, you have to learn the skill of disappointing people.

  • It is a skill.

  • Now, some of you might go, well, Jefferson, if that's the standard,

  • I am very skilled because I disappoint people all the time.

  • That's not what I mean.

  • I mean the act of knowing

  • that what you're about to say is going to, will not meet their expectation, is going to disappoint that person.

  • It's not the no, it is the feeling you get what's going to come after the no.

  • Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast.

  • If you're listening, I'm going to ask that wherever you're listening, please find the button

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  • It means the world to me and it costs you nothing.

  • Disappointment.

  • Our world is full of disappointment.

  • But yeah, when it comes to us,

  • when we know we're about to say something to somebody that's going to make them disappointed,

  • it creates a lot of heartburn, a lot of feelings.

  • There's some people out there, and you might be one of them listening.