2026-07-17
27 分钟So today we want to talk to you about a dynamic that happened between
the two of us that really like flipped back and forth in the last couple of days.
And what happened was basically Tara said something that kind of hurt to hear.
I said, well, basically I feel like I can't support you without losing myself.
Like I either have to choose to be in this heaviness with you or this stressful place,
or I have to find my joyful mood elsewhere since you can't be in it.
With me right now.
And that just felt like neither of those two feel really good for me, but I felt a little trapped.
And then basically two days later, I walked into the kitchen and Tara was in a really dark place.
And I felt that thing of like, well, what do I just like leave her and just let her be?
Do I try to get her out of it?
And it brought us to this question that we want to explore today is, you know,
what is really our job as each other's partner?
When the other person is really struggling.
Yes.
And the question we ask is, am I trying to love my partner
or am I trying to change their emotional state so I feel more comfortable?
Hello all, and welcome to the Relationship Renovation Podcast,
where we talk all things relationships, whether it's our own or just providing
some really good psychoeducation on skills we need to have awesome, intimate relationships that we deserve.