Why Conversations Go Wrong

为何对话会走偏

Hidden Brain

2026-09-14

1 小时 38 分钟
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Do you ever struggle to communicate with your mom? Or feel like you and your spouse sometimes speak different languages? This week, we revisit a favorite conversation with linguist Deborah Tannen. She shows how our conversational styles can cause unintended conflicts, and what we can do to communicate more effectively with the people in our lives. Then, in an all-new installment of "Your Questions Answered," Emma Levine responds to your questions and stories about the psychology of lying.  What should you do when you achieve a big goal, but it doesn't bring the satisfaction or happiness you thought it would? Check out our latest YouTube video for ideas about getting out of this sort of rut. And make sure to subscribe so you don't miss any of Shankar's upcoming videos.  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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  • This is Hidden Brain.

  • I'm Shankar Vedantam.

  • One of the most famous comedy sketches of the 20th century is built on a simple misunderstanding.

  • And I am the manager.

  • It's the routine from Abbott and Costello, who's on first.

  • Well, let's see now.

  • We have on our team, we have who's on first, what's on second, I don't know's on third.

  • That's what I want to find out, the guy's name.

  • That's what I want to find out, the guy's name.

  • I'm telling you, who's on first, what's on second, I don't know's on third.

  • The duo first performed the sketch in the 1930s and continued to refine it over the next two decades.

  • They rarely did it the same way twice.

  • Part of what makes the skit funny is that we are in on the joke.

  • But what happens when the joke's on us?

  • When real-life conversations go off the rails because of miscommunication

  • or a misunderstanding, it's no laughing matter.

  • There are so many things that could misfire.

  • The pace at which you speak, how you get to the point, the rhythms, the intonation patterns, humor.

  • That is a minefield.

  • How do you let people know that you're joking and that you're teasing?