2026-10-21
8 分钟If you're feeling overwhelmed right now and your brain, your critical voice is saying, what's wrong with you?
Why can't you handle this?
Why aren't you better?
We've been taught to believe that being hard on ourselves
and correcting ourselves and constantly judging will make us better.
But research actually suggests something completely different.
And in this episode, I want to give you a specific...
Self-compassion exercise that you can use next time or right now if you are overwhelmed.
But before we start, I want to actually give you a piece of research that I thought was so interesting.
Now, there was a researcher at UC Berkeley and they took a group of undergraduates
and they gave them a really hard test.
Ultimately, they rigged the test to make sure that they failed.
And after they failed, researchers either put them in one group where they put them through a self-compassion exercise
and said, hey, that was a really hard test.
You shouldn't beat yourself up over it.
And in the...
Arthur group, all that they were told was, hey, you're really smart.
You got into Berkeley after all and sent them on their merry way.
And what they learned is the group who were just told
how smart they were, they had very low motivation to study for the next test.