8 Things Dads Should Never Say to Their Kids

We would love to hear from you, follow this link to send us a message directly. Include a voice message and you might even be featured in a future episode! We've all said something we thought would be helpful only to later regret the harm we caused. We had good intentions, but still messed up. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to discuss the lasting impact a father's words can have on his children. They unpack common phrases dads often say without realizing the damage they can cause and offer healthier, more encouraging alternatives that build confidence in kids.  Why This Matters A father's words often become a child's inner voice, making it critical to speak truth, encouragement, and love with intention. Key Takeaways ·       Avoid labels, comparisons, and discouraging statements that attack your child's identity instead of addressing their behavior. ·       Encourage effort, growth, and resilience without offering false praise or unrealistic promises. ·       Sometimes the most powerful message isn't a perfect speech—it's consistently reminding your children they're loved, believed in, and never alone. Practical Tips for Dads 1.    Replace criticism of your child's identity with coaching about their choices or behavior. 2.    Follow through when you promise your child your time, showing them they are a priority. 3.    Make encouragement a daily habit by telling your children you believe in them, you're proud of their effort, and you love them unconditionally. Important Episode Timestamps [00:00] What Should Dads Stop Saying to Their Kids? [00:50] The Night BJ's Son Wrote His Article for Him [03:50] “Why Can’t You Be More Like Your Brother?” [05:49] "I Don't Have Time Right Now.” [09:03] "I Don't Think You Can Do It.” [12:04] "You're Such a Disappointment.” [15:08] "Don't Be Such a Wimp.” [16:47] The Danger of Labels — Even the Ones Said as a Joke [18:19] "You Can't Do Anything Right.” [19:40] “Why Didn’t You ____?” [22:12] Nothing. [23:28] This Week's Pro Move: Ask your kids, “Have I ever said anything that hurt you?” Listen to their response and own it.  Quotable: “I don’t think dads have bad hearts. I think we have bad habits.” - Ted Sponsor: The All Pro Dad Podcast is proudly brought to you by Family First, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents with resources to strengthen their families. Learn more at FamilyFirst.net. All Pro Dad Resources: Episode 8 – What Are 7 Things A Son Needs From His Dad?  Episode 9 – What Are 7 Things A Daughter Needs From Her Dad? Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter) Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox. This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store. Get great content for moms at iMOM.com