How To Build Real Connection And Destroy The Likes Habit | Cal Newport

如何建立真正的联系并打破点赞成瘾的习惯 | 加勒特·尼波特

The Daily Motivation

2026-09-25

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Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1982DM Cal Newport tracked down the development lead for the first iPhone. Nothing about the tech ever required you to look at it constantly. Steve Jobs was a minimalist. A beautiful object you pulled out to play a song, call your mom, find an address. Then the Facebook IPO hit and the apps needed revenue. They re-engineered everything around likes, retweets, photo auto tags. Newport's word for it: social approval indicators. Now you check in line, in the bathroom, walking the dog. Lewis Howes names the trap. The more likes you collect, the less worthy you feel, so you post again to prove you're enough. Your social brain has no idea what to do with a number next to a thumbs up icon. It knows faces, time, someone who bothered to show up. Friend has a baby? Congrats with three exclamation points costs you nothing, which is exactly the problem. Drive over with snacks and towels. That hour is what connection is made of. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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  • Hi, my name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

  • So if you go back to the beginning of the consumer-facing smartphone era, so like the iPhone in 2007,

  • I went back and talked to the original development lead for the first iPhone.

  • And what he confirmed is there was nothing about this tech that meant for you to look at it all the time.

  • Steve Jobs was a minimalist.

  • His whole thing was, I want to take something that's really important to you,

  • and then I want to make the experience beautiful.

  • And so for him, it was playing music.

  • Music was incredibly important.

  • Huge, it was big.

  • Yeah, and everyone was listening to iPods, right?

  • And so the iPhone had a touchscreen.

  • And he was like, look, I can make the experience of playing music even more beautiful.

  • And he was offended by the interfaces on cell phones at that time.