2026-02-27
24 分钟What if the tools aren't working?
What if you're so activated, you're so frustrated, you're unable to communicate in healthy ways with one another?
Today, we answer that question.
Hello all and welcome to the Relationship Renovation Podcast.
I'm Tara Kerwin.
And my name is EJ Kerwin.
And today's episode is going to be in response to a comment we received from a YouTube viewer.
And we had a few episodes ago, a three-part series.
On communication and specifically communication tools to help you and your partner deal with difficult moments.
And the first thing I want to do is I just want to read their comment.
And it specifically was around our episode that talked about validation,
you know, the ability to let your partner know you hear exactly what they are saying,
that you 're validating their sort of like emotional experience in a moment.
So the viewer says, I think the discussions on validation would be more useful if you picked harder examples.
Say my partner is borderline gaslighting.
Is it really the right answer to just validate their false version?
That can't be right.
How about a classic like this?
The reason I'm being distant is I am still mad at you for staring at the waitress the other night.
Validating out of the gate that he was staring at the wasteress accepts her false premise.