2014-10-23
49 分钟Oh, my God, I'm going to die at the end of my life knowing I sided with my fears.
In this tug of war between fears and dreams, I sided with my fears.
There's a certain inertia that often takes hold of our lives when we hit a certain age.
You know, one that says, you know, that dream, it's just not that realistic.
So why don't you just buckle down and do the adult thing?
It's the voice of the inner critic, sometimes bundled with a whole lot of outer critic.
And together, these voices keep you from playing big, from refusing the call to do something that might just leave you exposed.
Well, how you handle those voices, that's what we're talking about on today's episode.
I'm Jonathan Fields.
This is good life project.
My guest today is women's leadership expert and author of playing big, Tara Safiya Moore.
Fresh out of Yale and on her way to becoming a Shakespeare scholar and women's activist, she took an unexpected turn, heading to Stanford to get her mba and then into a world of business where she reconnected with something that's become her calling.
So you recently wrote a provocative op ed piece from the New York Times about how men and women are criticized differently and what to do about that.
So tell me a little bit about that op ed.
Yeah.
So it was about the fact that one, that all substantive work that women do brings praise and criticism, and that particularly for women, what the research shows is that it will tend to bring personal and personality criticism.
So this recent study done was analyzing women and men's performance reviews, written performance reviews from their bosses, and found that women got more critical feedback overall than men.
But most notably, what it found was that 75% of the critical feedback that women receive includes a personality criticism of some kind.
You're too abrasive, too judgmental, too aggressive.
And only 2% of men's performance for feedback includes this personal criticism.