How’s That Working Out for You?

你觉得怎么样?

Good Life Project

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2015-06-18

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One the fastest ways to accelerate your growth, personal or professional, is to seek out and ask for guidance from mentors. People who've been where you're looking to go and are open to sharing their stumbles, wins and wisdom. But, there's something that often happens when a mentor gives feedback that does not validate or, even worse, straight-up shoots down what you want to do. You fight the feedback, and often, the mentor. When I'm in the playing the role of mentor and this happens, it's not unusual for me to ask a mentee who is refusing to open to a new possibility or give up a position or decision that's being proven increasingly wrong... "how's that working out for you?" Why this refusal to open to the input of those we seek to guide us is pretty interesting. Because you were looking for the wrong thing. You wanted validation, but the mentor's job is to speak truth, at least their truth. Because, when you're trying to create something great... You don’t need validation, you need truth. We talk about this phenomenon and what to do when it happens in this week's short and sweet Good Life Riff. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • Hey, there, it's Jonathan here with this week's good Life project riff.

  • The name of today's is, hey, how's that working out?

  • So, every once in a while, I think about being a therapist, and then I remember that chocolate isn't necessarily the answer to everything, although, frankly, I still find that debatable.

  • The other thing is, I tend to have a fairly low tolerance for an action.

  • So then there's one other thing that really puzzles me.

  • So, here's a common scenario.

  • An entrepreneur, or aspiring entrepreneur, is struggling, or they just want some mentoring.

  • Outside perspective, maybe.

  • So they seek out a mentor and share their concept.

  • They lay out everything they've been doing and plan to do occasionally, I'm that mentor.

  • So if you know me at all, you know I'm loving but direct.

  • Life's too short to dance around the truth.

  • I think if you're heading off the rails or you're already in a ditch but don't know it, I will tell you.

  • And if I have thoughts on what might make it work better, I'll share them as well.

  • So, am I right?

  • Who knows?

  • But if you come to me because you think I can help, I'm assuming you're open to the idea that something I share might add value.

  • I once had a successful fitness industry entrepreneur share his dream plan with me.

  • He'd written it himself and run all the numbers by his good friend, who was a Harvard MBA, but one who knew nothing about the industry.

  • The projections painted a picture of a stunning success, but the assumptions upon which they were built were total fiction.