You Are Enough

你够了

Good Life Project

自我完善

2016-05-06

11 分钟
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Funny thing about competence. With rare exception, we so often look at others and think they've got it so much more together than us. They're more skilled, smarter, more established, more connected, better able to do the thing we most want to do. Except, it's almost always a lie. We're all in that same "looking at the person ahead of us and wishing" boat. Thinking someday we'll get there. Or, maybe giving up and wondering how do we just be okay being okay. When we determine our own self-worth, happiness or sense of fulfillment in comparison to others, we always lose. Because we're comparing our insides to their outsides. And, even if we knew their insides, they're not us. So, here's the thing. This day. This moment. We ARE enough. You Are Enough. That's what this week's short and sweet GLP Riff is all about. And, it's a response to a listener email we recently received. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • So today's Good Life project riff is actually a question from one of our awesome listeners and somebody who I've actually known for a number of years comes from Kristen, and she writes, these are her words.

  • Obviously, you're a really intelligent person, and by the way, these are my words.

  • I don't actually see myself that way at all.

  • So let me continue with the accolades and experiences to back you up.

  • I noticed that those with a big following your peers in the online world were also super smarty pants in school, graduating on top of their classes, too.

  • I'm smart, there's no doubt, yet I wasn't at the tippy top of my class.

  • My writing is good, but nowhere near as profound as yours, which means my mind isn't as profound.

  • What advice do you have for people who are smart but not necessarily genius, to create a tribe like you have done?

  • I'm looking for a new perspective on this.

  • I don't know that I'll ever have the profound wisdom you seem to embody, which means my stuff isn't really going to stand out from the crowd.

  • And I'm so bad at the social media game, I can't rely upon that to generate a tribe.

  • I fear I'll be forced into slimy marketing tactics because I don't have the brain it takes to create truly genius content.

  • So, all right, first I need to deconstruct this.

  • My entire life, I have felt like I am the stupid person in the room, and that has probably forced me to work really hard, but not in the early days.

  • So there's some interesting assumptions in what you're sharing.

  • I was a pretty non remarkable student for the better part of my life until I hit law school and I realized that I had squandered a lot of opportunities and I was capable of more than I thought.

  • And then I worked incredibly hard to actually excel at.

  • But until then, I was a solid, probably c student and I didn't perform well at all.

  • And my entire life, including to this day, while I've definitely learned a lot and developed a certain amount of smarts, I still look around me and I have the relative thing.

  • I have the comparison thing.