Why Stories Work Better Than Advice.

为什么故事比建议更有效。

Good Life Project

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2017-06-22

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Ever have something really important to say to someone? Something you know will help? Some bit of wisdom or advice that can make a big difference. Could be at work, at home, in your personal life. So, what's the best way to "get your point across?" How do you share your idea in a way where the person you most want to get it...gets it? Then, acts on it. Instead of rejecting it out of hand. Turns out, framing your wisdom in the form of a well-told story, rather than a point or moral or bit of advice, demand, order or imperative, can work wonders. It can bypass all the automatic defenses that lead us to reject being "told what to do." That's what today's Good Life Project Riff is all about. Rockstar sponsors: Camp GLP - Register by June 28, 2017 and lock in your $100 discount. After that registration returns to full-price. And, more important, we don't have a lot of spots left, so there is a decent chance we will sell soon and have no spots left at any price. So, come grab your spot now! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • So I've been thinking about the idea of story lately, and mainly, if you're trying to convey an idea, is it better to lead with the point or to lead with a story and somehow meander around to the point?

  • That's what I'm diving into on today's good Life project riff.

  • So I remember a little while back, I was at an event, and I had the great fortune to be on stage.

  • And the person who was on stage right before me, who's become a friend, was Tiffany Schlain.

  • And if you recognize that name, it's because it may be for a lot of reasons.

  • Tiffany is a documentary filmmaker.

  • She's also the founder of the Webby Awards, and she's done so many incredible pieces and created some of these collective, collaborative filmmaking pieces that have exploded massively, virally online around the place.

  • And I remember I was backstage, and I heard Tiffany speaking on stage, and I heard her say something like, I won't get her exact language, but she was saying there came a time where she realized, actually, that if you lead with humor, that people become much more open to your message, rather than just saying, here's the message.

  • And it really got me thinking, because I believe if you can sort of shift somebody's emotional state, then I agree, that enables them.

  • It sort of drops a certain defense mechanism, and you become much more open to an idea or to a message.

  • And I really started thinking, well, humor is certainly one way to do that, but on a larger context, I think it's almost, if you're funny, if you have the capacity to be funny, you're like, oh, I could totally do that.

  • Let me do it.

  • But there are a lot of other people who feel like, but I'm not funny.

  • And I want to open people to ideas so that good stuff can come in and we can have conversations.

  • So what I realized is that in my mind, it's not so much about humor.

  • It is about creating some sort of experience that allows somebody to lower their shields.

  • And for me, one of the most powerful tools to make that happen.

  • It can be funny, it can be sad, it can be dramatic, but it's about story.

  • It's the idea of storytelling.

  • So what's interesting is I'm telling you all about speakers today, right?