Caroline Adams Miller: The Road to Grit.

卡罗琳·亚当斯·米勒:砂砾之路。

Good Life Project

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2017-07-24

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Guest: For almost three decades Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP has been a leading voice in applying the science of goal-setting, grit, happiness and success. In 2015, she was named “one of the ten Positive Psychology coaches to follow.” Her latest book is, Getting Grit: The Evidence-Based Approach to Cultivating Passion, Perseverance, and Purpose. Story: A fiercely-competitive athlete and academic even in her youth, Miller was exposed to Bulimia at the age of 14 and turned to it as an outlet and control mechanism. Outwardly successful by every external measure, she eventually attended Harvard, got married and started a family, all the while keeping her disorder secret. Until one day, gripped by the need to control her disorder any more, she began to reveal her secret life and seek help. Fortunately, she heard the right words at the right time during a support group meeting, which helped turn her life into one of purpose. Caroline drew upon this life-changing experience to write a book about bulimia that exposed the disorder in a way that is still saving lives. That also started her down the road to understanding the human condition, studying positive psychology, writing a series of books and eventually focusing in on goal-setting and grit. Big idea: Grit is only good when it’s used for the right reasons, in the right context, and awes and inspires other people to play bigger and be better. You’d never guess: Why Caroline’s great-great-grandfather was in Abraham Lincoln’s Honorary Guard and why Lincoln and other presidents frequented his store in Washington D.C. Current passion project: Educating thousands of people around the world on the science of goal-setting, grit and their intersection with Positive Psychology. Rockstar sponsors: Get paid online, on-time with Freshbooks! Today's show is supported by FreshBooks, cloud accounting software that makes it insanely easy for freelancers and professionals to get paid online, track expenses and do more of what you love. Get your 1-month free trial, no credit card required, at FreshBooks.com/goodlife (enter The Good Life Project in the “How Did You Hear About Us?” section). Are you hiring? Do you know where to post your job to find the best candidates? Unlike other job sites, ZipRecruiter doesn’t depend on candidates finding you; it finds them. And right now, my listeners can post jobs on ZipRecruiter for FREE, That’s right. FREE! Just go to ZipRecruiter.com/good. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • And I thought I was going to die.

  • And suddenly I thought, wow, I think I'm going to live.

  • And so the dark side of goal setting and excellence is what got me to this dark place that, ironically, was the seeds of what I now see was true joy.

  • I had to ask myself, who am I?

  • Who do I want to be?

  • How do I want to get there?

  • What is joy?

  • Whose goals are these?

  • And so, ironically, in the seeds of this disaster, I found happiness, I found purpose, I found gratitude, I found altruism.

  • And ultimately, I found grit.

  • Because what I realized was I didn't have grit.

  • I had success and I had talent growing up, and those things were rewarded.

  • But I kind of protected it at all costs.

  • I didn't go too far out of my comfort zone.

  • I tried to make sure I'd shine here or shine there.

  • And this was the thing that kicked my butt and made me say, this is really hard, but I'm going to figure out how to get better.

  • So have you ever wondered how some people seem to be able to commit to something really big, really hard, really challenging, maybe years in the making, and somehow motivate themselves to just not give up, to stay with it until this incredible outcome happens?

  • Well, I'm really curious about that, too.

  • A couple years back, there was a huge buzz around this idea of grit as a critical quality of success in pretty much anything.

  • And it was, I think, brought to the world's attention by the researcher, Angela Duckworth.