2017-12-14
25 分钟So one of the things I have learned about this crazy thing called success over the years is a lot of it comes down to figuring out ways to be able to understand what to say yes or no to quickly and easily.
And there's one question that I've been using as a metric that has helped me in a really dramatic way lately.
In today's riff, I'm going to share that question with you.
I'm going to walk you through some examples of how I put it to use in my own life and maybe offer an invitation for you to explore that same thing.
Because anything that makes us understand what to say yes and no to a lot more quickly and easily is something that we all want to do more of and we want in our lives and in today's good life.
Science update if you've been listening at all for anywhere from a few weeks to a few years now, you know that I am a student of meditation and mindfulness.
There's a ton of research that's come out on it, but it's kind of all over the place.
And we've got a pretty fascinating new study that breaks down the elements of what we're talking about when we're talking about mindfulness and then researches them independently to try and understand how they affect us differently.
That's where we're going.
I'm Jonathan Fields.
This is good life project.
So I don't know about you, but heading into the holidays every year, it can be some people love this season, some people want to run screaming away from it.
It really all depends.
I think it's really important to be conscious of how we each experience it.
No matter what, though, whether you celebrate or don't celebrate holidays, the time of year moving into December and moving towards the end of the year, it's kind of a nice milestone to reflect on.
And I love to sort of think about asking big questions, trying to understand what has gone well, what hasn't gone well, and also trying to come up with simple ways for me to make better decisions on a daily basis.
Ways that I can just kind of scan the world, scan the universe of opportunities to say yes or no to something, from the smallest little thing to the biggest giant project or endeavor and find ways to be able to take less time, less struggle, less toil in the old noggin, to figure out what makes sense, to say yes to and what isn't an absolute no.
The less energy I can spend on that, the quicker I can make those decisions, the happier I'm going to end up being and the more time I get to spend doing the things that truly fill my good life buckets and less time doing the things that empty them.
So, of course there are going to be some times where you don't quite know.
But I found that increasingly the quality of the questions that you ask determines how often you get to say yes and no, and how many of those opportunities actually fall into that gray area where you don't know.