How to Feel Like You Matter | Isaac Prilleltensky

如何感觉自己很重要|艾萨克·普里尔滕斯基

Good Life Project

2024-02-15

54 分钟
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What if mattering could be the key to living your best life? Psychologist Dr. Isaac Prilleltensky joins us to unpack the profound human need for mattering. Isaac explains the two components of mattering—feeling valued and adding value. Discover how cultivating mattering through fairness, purpose, and small generous acts can transform health, happiness, work, and relationships. Learn why extremism rises when mattering is lacking, and how finding meaning by contributing to something bigger than yourself is the antidote. Get Isaac’s practical tips for taking responsibility to add value, listen generously, and promote wellness in yourself and society. You can find Isaac at: Website | LinkedIn | Episode Transcript If you LOVED this episode you’ll also love the conversations we had with Robert Waldinger about meaning and life. Check out our offerings & partners:  My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKED. Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • There is no wellness without fairness or worthiness.

  • So if you want a good life, find ways to promote the wellness, fairness, and worthiness.

  • So here's my question.

  • Have you ever felt like you just don't matter?

  • That you could more or less disappear and no one would notice or care in your work, in your relationships, in your community, maybe even your family?

  • I think most of us have felt that, or some version of that, at least on some level, at some point in our lives, like who we are or what we do just doesn't matter, or at least matter to people that we want it to matter to, including ourselves.

  • Those feelings of invisibility and insignificance, they can be deeply discouraging.

  • And the feeling of mattering we know it is critical to a life well lived.

  • Which is why I am so excited to share today's conversation with the world's leading researcher on mattering, Doctor Isaac Britansky, inaugural chair of community well being at the University of Miami.

  • Over his prolific career, Isaac has explored the concept of mattering and how it affects our ability to live good lives.

  • In his research and writings, he has identified two core components of mattering, which we dive into pretty extensively in this conversation.

  • As he describes, there is powerful reciprocity.

  • Between feeling valued and being inspired to step up and contribute value to the world.

  • Mattering fuels our health, our happiness, our purpose, and so much more.

  • But we also talk about what happens when we don't feel that we matter.

  • And Isaac has found that the consequences can be really severe, from joining extremist groups to suicidal ideation, to a lack of so many of the qualities and.

  • States that we hold dear in our lives.

  • On the flip side, the beautiful news is that even small acts done the right way can start to fulfill our need to matter in really healthy and meaningful ways.

  • So how can we cultivate true mattering in our own lives and communities?

  • How can it guide us towards living a good life?