The Jack & Chill Podcast | Grief

In this episode of The Jack & Chill Podcast, Jack and Xochitl talk about their experiences with loss and the grief that goes along with those experiences. Transcript: 00:00:00 Xochitl You are listening to the Jack and Chill podcast Jack. Today we have a little bit of a heavy topic brief Jack. 00:00:20 Xochitl Your experiences with grief and how would you define it for our listeners? 00:00:24 발표자 OK. 00:00:25 Jack Yeah. So grief is A is a a tough topic and for our listeners out there, grief is the emotion that you feel when. 00:00:33 Jack Someone that you you loved, a loved one passes away or or dies. 00:00:39 Jack And for me, I I never really experienced it. 00:00:47 Jack I I I didn't experience it for a long time because when I was born my 2 two of my grandparents were had already passed away or passed away when I was a baby. So you I just grew up never knowing my my grandfather on my father's side. 00:01:07 Jack And I grew up not knowing my grandmother on my mother's side and my grandfather on my mother's side was alive. But we we weren't really in contact with him. He was an abusive alcohol. 00:01:22 Jack Alec and so growing up, there was a lot of. 00:01:29 Jack Stress in my my mother's family because of my grandfather's drinking and and when he was when I was in middle or sorry, elementary school, maybe fifth grade during summer camp, my grandfather passed away in a nursing home and my parents. 00:01:49 Jack Ask me, you know, do you want to go to the funeral? 00:01:52 Jack We'll come pick you. 00:01:52 Jack Up or you can just stay at camp and. 00:01:57 Jack I just stayed at camp and I I really felt nothing. I, I I remember meeting him one time in the nursing home and it was just scary, you know, because it was all all these. 00:02:10 Jack Elderly, sick people, very thin and. 00:02:15 Jack I he I just. I didn't have any relationship with him at all. So I I really only had my my father's mother, my grandmother, and my father my father's side. 00:02:28 Jack And she we called her Bubba. Uh and Bubba was the best. You know? She really. 00:02:39 Jack Filled in for all the for the other three grandparents that didn't have I I wouldn't trade, you know, four grandparents for for one, Bubba and yeah, ever. Because she was amazing. And and she lived to be 92 years old. 00:02:57 Jack And so she passed. Maybe in, like, 2009. I think if I'm not mistaken, somewhere around there. Uh, my daughter was just a baby at the time and. 00:03:10 Jack And I I felt. 00:03:11 Jack Very, very sad, obviously because it's it's hard when you lose someone that you. 00:03:18 Jack Of but I also, on the other hand, she lived to be 92 years old, like she lived a very full life, a very long life. Yeah, I grew up in the Great Depression in America, in on a farm in South Dakota. So she was tough, you know. 00:03:27 Xochitl Right. 00:03:38 Jack Tough as nails like there is no, she didn't. She wasn't a, you know, delicate person. You know, she grew up in the hard times in America and she. 00:03:55 Jack Married my my grandfather, who was a a mechanic in the military. He served in Panama building of the Panama Canal during World War 2. So, you know, it was there just just that famous, you know, kind of story. 00:04:15 Jack 1950s, they had their children. They grew up in the 50s and 60s. My my father was in elementary school in the 50s and then high school and university in the 60s and early 70s. 00:04:29 Jack And so that was my first experience with with grief. But in the last three about three years ago, my one of my very, very close friends, I probably I have a best friend from high school and a best friend from college. 00:04:48 Jack And my best friend from college passed away, and that was. 00:04:57 Jack You know it's. 00:05:00 Jack He he was young, you know. I mean, not not. Maybe not not, you know, not not like in his 20s. He was in his his 40s but. 00:05:10 Xochitl That's young to pass. That's very young to pass. 00:05:11 Jack Yeah, that's that's v