Need a bit of dating help? The caveman’s guide to romance

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Economist

2026-02-13

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  • If you want an exciting first date this Valentine's Day, forget dinner and a screening of "Wuthering Heights".

  • Try zip-lining instead.

  • This is the advice of Justin Garcia, an evolutionary biologist and head of the Kinsey Institute,

  • one of the world's best-known centres of research into sex.

  • A day of climbing hills to throw yourself off cliffs lets you "walk and talk

  • while experiencing something novel and thrilling together".

  • Thus, you will get to know each other better.

  • And because of a psychological principle known as "misattribution of arousal",

  • your companion may start to associate you with thrilling feelings.

  • "Yes, this is how sexologists approach first dates," says Dr Garcia.

  • Many species reproduce sexually.

  • Homo sapiens is the only one to write books worrying about how the process is changing.

  • Humankind is facing an "intimacy crisis", argues Dr Garcia in "The Intimate Animal".

  • Globally, one person in four is lonely.

  • Without strong relationships, people live less cheerfully and die earlier.

  • A survey in America found

  • that 98% of people believe good, intimate relationships are a key element of a satisfied life.

  • Part of the problem is the mismatch between the world

  • in which our brains evolved and the one in which people now search for love, contends Dr Garcia.

  • In his telling, the two greatest changes to human courtship