What Do Dads Need to Stop Saying to Their Kids?

A father’s words can build his kids up or tear them down. They are powerful, and can stick with kids for the rest of their lives. That’s why we have to watch what we say. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how often we (even accidentally) say the wrong thing and what uplifting things we should be saying instead. Why This Matters The words we use with our kids can build up or tear down. We must choose them wisely. Things to Stop Saying to Sons 1. “You can’t do it.” 2. “You’re not strong enough.” Or “Don’t be a wimp.”  3. “I’m disappointed in you.” 4. “I’m working on something important. You’ll have to wait.” Things to Stop Saying to Daughters 1. “Have you gained/lost weight?” 2. “Stop being so dramatic.” 3. “You’re just like your mother.” 4. “Oh, but you’re so pretty.” 5. “If you had done ______, you could have done even better.”  Things to START Saying Instead 1. “I love you.” 2. “I’m grateful to be your dad.” 3. “I believe in you.” Important Episode Timestamps 00:00:48 – 02:41 | Why Your Anger Isn’t Really About Your Kids 02:41 – 05:12 | The Hidden Triggers Behind Dad Reactions 05:12 – 07:36 | The Difference Between Discipline and Control 07:36 – 10:18 | Parenting From Pressure vs. Parenting From Purpose 10:18 – 12:44 | How Stress Leaks Into Your Tone and Body Language 12:44 – 15:03 | The 5-Second Pause That Changes Everything 15:03 – 17:29 | Repairing After You Lose Your Cool 17:29 – 19:58 | Teaching Kids Emotional Regulation by Modeling It 19:58 – 22:11 | Breaking the Generational Pattern of Anger 22:11 – End | The Dad Challenge: Lead Yourself First   APD Pro Move: Give your kids a new affirmation every day this week. All Pro Dad Resources:  Episode 8 – What Are 7 Things A Son Needs From His Dad? Episode 9 – What Are 7 Things A Daughter Needs From Her Dad? Episode 87 – How Can I Connect With My Kids? We love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info! Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter) Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox. This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store. Get great content for moms at iMOM.com