2026-02-16
45 分钟Pushkin.
Admitted.
At some point, you probably fantasized about meeting somebody that you really clicked with.
And in that fantasy, things are really great.
You're into them.
They're into you.
You get a little jolt of joy every time you see a text from their number.
Over time, you start to think, huh, I might love this person.
Or even, this is the human I'm going to spend the rest of my life with.
But of course, there are some steps you need to go through before it gets to that point.
Before that happens, I'm going to have to have a relationship at all before that's going to happen.
I'm going to have to go on a date and before that's going to happen,
I am going to have to get a date.
This is Tim Malnar, a social scientist turned dating coach in Boulder, Colorado.
Before Tim became an expert on the science of dating, he was pretty much the opposite.
My initial approach to love was very much based on this idea that love will happen when it happens.
I just wasn't very proactive.
I was spending a lot of time pursuing self-actualization and so trying to make sure that I was getting into the right grad schools and I was playing soccer over in Europe for a while,
learning new languages,
doing all of these things that I thought would make me a more interesting partner.