2026-02-11
7 分钟Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
I used to think that chemistry meant compatibility, but man was I wrong.
It doesn't mean you can't be compatible with chemistry,
but if you connect through chemistry right away without understanding
if you're compatible and the values and vision,
all these different things, it's gonna end up being painful.
And what I was really feeling was a familiar pain when I felt that chemistry in new relationships until I started to do the inner work,
until I started to face myself spiritually, physically, metaphorically,
until I started to do exercises and workshops and therapeutic experiences that allowed me to Heal the pain that was inside of me that had been wounded and broken for so long that never Mended until I started to do more journaling and reflection and Self-reflection and alone time with myself without distractions so I could really listen and face myself
Because it's hard to heal
if you're always distracting yourself with the next thing that creates chemical feelings inside of your body You need some space You need some alone time.
You need to be able to create experiences to reflect and think about why,
how, who, what, and what you can do to start processing them,
to start grieving these losses, to start creating healthy boundaries,
to start improving yourself, to start creating new standards.
You need that space and time.
But if you distract yourself with other people or other problems or social media and you never take that alone time,
it's going to be painful for a long time.
And I wasn't, I was afraid to face myself.
So I kept repeating the same mistakes over and over again in new relationships,