2026-02-10
28 分钟If you feel like it's a lot of work, that doesn't necessarily mean that there's a problem.
Hey everybody, welcome back to the couples therapist couch.
This is Shane Burkle and this is the podcast that's all about the practice of couples therapy.
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Hey everyone, welcome back to the couple's therapist couch.
This is Shane Burkle and today I'm going to be talking about couples that just don't feel connected.
And this is a specific type of couple.
This is something that I've seen a lot sometimes They'll come in and they'll say we just feel like roommates or recently I heard I was talking to another therapist and in a consultation and they said they were working with a couple that felt
like they were living parallel lives and One of the things that is really important about working with these cases is really trying to separate each person's reality
because a lot of times the couple will come in and They'll Talk about we just don't feel connected when when people use we statements in that way It's really hard for therapists to know what to do.
So I never really take that at face value oftentimes.
I'll pretty quickly Try to encourage each person to say well,
what what makes you not feel connected in this relationship?
So I really want to get to the lived experience of each person
because a lot of times this is Using that kind of language using that kind of we language is actually Avoiding vulnerability on some level and I'm not saying people do it on purpose.