Stop Taking Advice And Start Asking Questions That Transform | James Clear

停止接受建议,开始提出能改变现状的问题 | 詹姆斯·克莱尔

The Daily Motivation

2026-01-24

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Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1372 James Clear doesn't want to give you advice. That might sound strange coming from the guy who wrote Atomic Habits, but here's what he's learned: advice is brittle. What worked for someone else can completely fail you because your context is different. So instead of prescriptions, James offers something more powerful: questions that adapt to whatever season you're in. He talks about falling into this trap where we optimize for what we think we're supposed to be doing, chasing goals that other people encourage while our actual desires get buried. The shift happens when you ask yourself what you're really optimizing for, whether it's money or creative freedom or family time, and then honestly evaluate if your current habits are carrying you toward that future or away from it. The tennis match metaphor he shares cuts through all the noise about control. You don't control what the other player does, but you absolutely influence the game with your own moves. Most of life sits in that space between total control and complete helplessness. James pushes you to ask how you might be contributing to the very situations you say you don't want, which sounds confrontational until you realize it's liberating. It means there are levers you can pull. And when habits stop serving you, it's not about guilt. Sometimes they just outlived their usefulness. These questions keep you honest about whether the daily choices you're making are actually building the life you want or just the life you think you should want. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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  • Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

  • I think questions are crucial.

  • You know,

  • it's kind of funny

  • because I spent a lot of time writing about these ideas and trying to share what I learned,

  • you know, with habits and improvement, decision-making, productivity and all that.

  • And I think it's easy for that stuff to kind of come across as like advice.

  • But I'm not really trying to give people advice.

  • I'm just trying to like lay out a toolkit and say, Hey, here's all the strategy.

  • Here's all the tools.

  • Let's lay them on the table.

  • And then you can choose which one's the best fit for you.

  • Like I don't really have much interest in telling people what to do.

  • I'm more just trying to like share all the strategies.

  • But the other problem with advice is that it's kind of brittle.

  • in the sense that it's very dependent on context.

  • Someone can give you actually very good advice.

  • They can give you an idea that genuinely worked for them.

  • But if your context is different,

  • if the timing or the situation is different or you have different resources,