2026-01-23
7 分钟Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
When they would do things that I didn't really agree with or they would bully other kids or make fun of people,
it's like I didn't want to not say anything.
You know, I didn't want to stand against them because I wanted to belong.
So if I did stand up against them, then that means I was alone.
And that was my biggest fear.
was being alone.
Oh yeah because that's what that's what teams and groups deliver.
They deliver this thing that you're not alone.
The problem is there's just I was so shocked to learn in the research that the opposite of belonging is fitting in
because fitting in is assessing a group of people.
and thinking, who do I need to be?
What do I need to say?
What do I need to wear?
How do I need to act?
And changing who you are.
And true belonging never asks us to change who we are.
It demands that we be who we are.
Because if we fit in, because how we've changed ourselves, that's not belonging.
That's not belonging because you betrayed yourself for other people.