The Me-Versus-Them Trap

我-他们陷阱

Radio Headspace

2026-01-23

6 分钟
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Comparison can quietly turn into self-obsession, leaving us stuck inside our own stories. Rosie explores this “secret enemy,” why it shrinks our world, and how compassion helps us remember that we’re not alone. We’re part of something bigger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • Hey friends, it's Rosie.

  • Welcome back to Radio Headspace.

  • So the other day I caught myself doing that thing.

  • I opened Instagram just to check one thing.

  • Famous last words, right?

  • 10 minutes in, I wasn't checking anything, I was comparing.

  • Scrolling through a highlight reel of other people's vacations, book deals, glowing skin,

  • picture perfect morning routines, and instead of closing the app, I stayed.

  • I kept scrolling, kept comparing, kept making everything about me.

  • Why don't I look like that?

  • Why isn't my project moving as fast?

  • Why do I always fall behind?

  • And just like that, I was trapped in what Buddhist teachers call the secret enemy, self-obsession.

  • The secret enemy isn't someone out there.

  • It's the way we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we disconnect from the world.

  • We start seeing everything through the lens of me versus them.

  • Their win is my loss.

  • Their happiness highlights my lack.

  • Their success is proof of my failure.

  • And here's the paradox.