Why Couples Stay Stuck in the Same Painful Patterns (Even When They Try to Change)

Why do so many couples feel stuck repeating the same painful patterns — even after therapy, books, and years of personal growth? Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation Coaching In this conversation with Thais Gibson, founder of the Personal Development School, EJ and Tarah explore why insight alone doesn’t lead to lasting change in relationships. If you’ve ever thought “I know better, so why do I keep reacting the same way?” this episode helps explain what’s really happening beneath the surface. Join Our Patreon Community Together, they unpack how attachment patterns, nervous system responses, and emotional conditioning keep couples locked in familiar cycles of conflict, shutdown, or disconnection — and why trying harder, being more aware, or having good intentions often isn’t enough to break those patterns. Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from Amazon In this episode, you’ll learn: Why understanding your patterns doesn’t automatically change themHow attachment wounds get activated in close relationshipsWhy shame and self-blame keep couples stuckWhat actually helps create lasting relational shiftsHow emotional safety supports real change over timeThis episode is especially helpful if you: Feel stuck in the same relationship dynamicsHave done personal growth work but still feel triggeredWonder why your relationship feels harder than it “should”Want a compassionate, practical understanding of attachment and changeThis is a grounding, validating conversation for couples who are tired of trying harder — and ready to understand what actually helps patterns soften and connection grow. 🔗 Learn More About Thais GibsonPersonal Development School: https://www.personaldevelopmentschool.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thaisgibson Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands