Welcome back to Advice Session,
a series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current dilemmas or anything you want advice on,
and then I give you my unprofessional advice.
And today's topic is friendship, but more specifically,
situations in friendship where it's unclear if you're in the wrong.
Now, I don't love pointing fingers in arguments,
even when someone deserves to have a finger pointed at them.
I don't love that style of communication.
I don't love that style of argument.
because I find that it's not optimal for growth.
I feel like when everyone involved in a conversation,
a confrontation approaches it in a humane, kind, I guess not kind,
but like mature way,
I think it creates an environment where everyone's guards are down so that growth can happen.
When people start pointing fingers, people start locking up.
and their walls come up.
So I don't love pointing fingers.
However, when there is some sort of challenge in a friendship,
I do think it can be helpful to reflect inwardly and figure out what role you play in the challenge,
in the conflict.