What Is A Passenger Parent and Am I One?

Are you a passenger parent? Yes, that’s a real thing. If you’re deferring to mom all the time or around your kids but not really engaged with them, you could be a passenger parent—just along for the ride. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how to avoid falling into this trap and staying fully engaged with our family.  Why This Matters Our kids need us to be fully engaged dads, not part-time parents.  What causes passenger parenting? Research says... 1.    Lack of Confidence 2.    Fear of Criticism 3.    Cultural Conditioning 4.    Overwhelm and Distraction 5.    No Shared Game Plan Action Steps for Dads 1: Step in without being asked. Take initiative on tasks like meals, bedtime, or school runs. 2: Take full responsibility for some things. Own a specific area, like sports schedules or bath time, from start to finish. 3: Learn the details. Know your kids’ routines, needs, and important dates so you can act without reminders. 4: Stay engaged.  Put away distractions, focus on your kids and what’s happening in the moment. 5: Plan together. Have regular check-ins with your wife to divide responsibilities and make adjustments. Important Episode Timestamps 00:00 – 02:21 | The Viral Mime Video and Dad Judgment 02:21 – 03:12 | What is Passenger Parenting? 03:12 – 04:01 | Five Signs You Might Be a Passenger Parent 04:01 – 05:21 | When Dad Checks Out Without Realizing It 05:21 – 07:17 | Why Moms Often Know More 07:17 – 08:20 | Solo Parenting Reveals the Gaps 08:20 – 09:14 | Three Questions Every Dad Should Ask Himself 09:14 – 13:07 | Don’t Wait Until Your Wife Hits a Breaking Point 13:07 – End | Developing Shared Leadership at Home APD Pro Move: Schedule a conversation with your wife and ask, “Do you see me as a passenger parent?” All Pro Dad Resources: Episode 92 – What’s the Best Part About Raising Boys? Episode 97 – What’s the Best Part About Being a Girl Dad? We love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info! Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter) Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox. This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store. Get great content for moms at iMOM.com