Embracing Solitude and Building Meaningful Connections | Kati Morton

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  Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

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  My entire childhood, I had a sense of deep loneliness, deep insecurity, loneliness, worry,

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  fear that no one was ever going to like me and no one was ever going to love me.

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  I'm assuming that it was a number of the instances I experienced in my life, the number of stories,

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  the number of things I witnessed and experienced that built the story in my mind that no one's gonna like me or love me.

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  When I started to have friends, when I was a teenager in high school,

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  I started to still feel a sense of loneliness with people around me and people liking me.

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  I still felt a deep sense of loneliness and the need to get people to like me.

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  And I took it upon myself to overcome that challenge by spending a lot of deep alone time and Falling in love with myself and falling in love with like who I am and writing letters to myself taking myself out on dinner dates but alone Movies all the time to the point where I said you know what I really enjoy my own company I don't need to feel good around other people anymore And it's a bonus.

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  I love people still,

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  but it's like I love being alone But it took me having kind of the vision to break this mold.

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  It took me like creating challenges for myself,

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  like experiencing deep pain of figuring out how to love myself.

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  What are your thoughts on loneliness?

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  Why do people feel lonely in general?

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  And what do you think is kind of the root of loneliness?

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  Yeah, I love that.

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  First of all, that's like all the homework I give my patients all the time.

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  Like dating yourself.

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  Really?

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