2025-11-16
7 分钟Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
You've been maybe in an abusive relationship in the past where you were a doormat.
You were walked on, you had no control, no authority.
The person that you were in a relationship with walked over your boundaries,
took advantage of all that.
And you've had time to heal and now you're getting back out there.
How can that person create a great dating experience in that first date to put themselves more in the driver's seat with some authority and not a doormat mentality.
I think the first thing is don't take out on that person what was done to you by somebody.
That's the worst.
Because we've all been victims of things to some degree, right?
And let's say even if it was it was abuse, if it was horrible,
it was that it is also not fair to take that out on an innocent person.
Like to take your trauma out to someone else and sometimes we can feel trauma elsewhere and then project it onto someone else who didn't cause that to us.
So I would say that's the most important thing because it will allow you to connect.
The other thing I will say is the majority of people tend to trust.
When we have relationships with people, we tend to go and trust people.
So when someone says something to you, you tend to believe it.
Knowing that we tend to believe people automatically, just hold a little bit of that back.
Just be more reserved in how much you trust.
Discerning about it.