Healing Attachment Wounds: Learning to Re-Parent Yourself

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  Hi, everyone. It's Sam here.

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  Welcome to Radio Headspace.

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  Yesterday, we dove deep into the importance of feeling seen,

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  understood, and tended to by our primary caregivers.

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  According to recent research, many of us, around 40%, were not graced with a secure attachment,

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  meaning we didn't have the best bonding experience with our caregivers in that first year of life.

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  Luckily,

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  we have the power to repair some aspects of this through mindfulness so that we can enjoy and bond with our loved ones more easily as adults.

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  And according to Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, authors of Attached,

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  Certain attachment styles clash and are difficult but not impossible to make work in romantic relationships.

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  So here are some tips to begin investigating and repairing some problematic patterns.

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  First,

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  mindfulness meditation offers a means of building a trusting and secure relationship within yourself.

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  In essence, you're re-parenting yourself by greeting your thoughts and feelings with acceptance,

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  compassion, patience, and ultimately love.

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  As you continue to show up for yourself consistently in meditation,

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  you begin to build trust and feel seen and understood as you allow yourself to be just as you are.

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  Meditation can also be helpful in forming a coherent narrative about your life.

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  meaning a story that feels complete and makes sense instead of one that is filled with confusion and misunderstanding of why things happened.

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  I actually talked about this in a recent episode on personal narratives,

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