If You Want A Strong Relationship, Set This Boundary First | Lewis & Martha Higareda Howes

若欲建立稳固关系,先设此界限 | 刘易斯与玛莎·希加雷达·豪斯

The Daily Motivation

2025-07-21

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Order my newest book Make Money Easy! https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou Check out the full episode: greatness.lnk.to/1797 Lewis and Martha open up about the boundary that saved their relationship before it even began. After years of exhausting themselves trying to keep the peace by constantly changing who they were, they learned that the strongest relationships aren't built on avoiding conflict—they're built on being crystal clear about what you will and won't accept from day one. Lewis shares how he almost scared Martha away by laying out his non-negotiables immediately, including his firm rule about never tolerating screaming, while Martha reveals how they both had to unlearn their people-pleasing patterns that were slowly draining their energy. What makes this conversation so powerful is how they moved beyond just setting boundaries with each other to creating protective barriers with friends, family, and colleagues that actually strengthened their relationship. You'll discover why waiting years to set boundaries makes everything harder, how to communicate limits without shame or anger, and the specific framework they used in therapy to turn potential deal-breakers into relationship strengtheners. This isn't about being selfish—it's about creating the safety that allows real love to flourish. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter
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  • Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

  • I think one of the most important steps is what mentally strong couples don't do is they don't hesitate to set boundaries yes and i think from the very beginning we i mean i was very clear on my side that i needed boundaries in my relationship yeah and i was clear with you that i didn't feel

  • like i had those in previous relationships same with you yeah and i was just like this is who i i was so i was almost like trying to get you to run away from me not a bad way but i was like this is who i am this is what i think this is what i believe this is how i act this is how i behave yeah I'm not willing to do this,

  • I am willing to do this.

  • I was like, I don't care what you think of me, this is who I'm going to be.

  • And take it or leave it, you know, type of mentality.

  • It was so clear because, you know, in the past, you also dated very explosive people.

  • I was never able to really be me without someone getting upset at me.

  • So I felt like I had to keep the peace by changing who I was all the time.

  • And it was exhausting trying to keep the peace.

  • And I think the best way to have peace in your life is to create boundaries and to hold on to those boundaries and just set a firm boundary on certain things.