Why it's so hard to accept compliments

为什么接受赞美如此艰难?

Life Kit

2025-07-15

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Receiving praise can feel good. But it can also feel uncomfortable. Should you say something nice back? Brush it off? Make a self-deprecating comment? Many of us were never taught how to accept compliments, but there's science to back up the benefits of receiving and giving kudos. Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoices NPR Privacy Policy
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