From The New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
This is Modern Love.
Every week, we explore all the messiness of trying to love,
trust, and stay connected to other people.
Our guest today thinks a big part of staying connected is accepting what you can and can't control in a relationship.
For example, someone you're into doesn't text you back.
Let them.
Let them not choose you.
Let them cancel last minute on your date.
Let them forget to ask how you're doing.
Let them forget your birthday.
Let them.
I'm talking, of course, about Mel Robbins.
She's a best-selling author, speaker,
and podcast host, and her latest book was an instant bestseller.
It's called The Let Them Theory.
It's not about giving up in relationships.
It's about letting people show you who they are without chasing or fixing or trying to manage them.
Today on the show,