To Share or Not to Share? How Location Sharing Is Changing Our Relationships

分享与否?位置共享如何改变我们的关系?

Modern Love

2025-06-25

32 分钟
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When we asked Modern Love listeners how location sharing is affecting their relationships, the responses we got were all over the map. Some people love this technology. Some hate it. But either way, it has changed something fundamental about how we demonstrate our love and how we set boundaries around relationships. Today, we’re sharing a few of our favorite listener responses. Then, Host Anna Martin talks with Arlon Jay Staggs, a Modern Love essayist who has wrestled deeply with whether to share his location. At first, location sharing wasn’t a big deal for Staggs and his mother. He took a lot of long drives, and it made sense for her to keep tabs on him. But when he realized his mother was watching his little blue dot too closely, and it was causing her stress when she needed peace of mind, Staggs decided the sharing had to stop. He just couldn’t figure out how to tell her. And when tragedy struck his family, the stakes of his decision to share or not share became a lot higher. Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times. Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
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  • Love now and always.

  • From The New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.

  • This is "Modern Love."

  • Our show is inspired by the Modern Love column,

  • and by all the messiness of trying to love, trust, and stay connected to other people.

  • One way my dad likes to stay connected is with a ritual he does basically every night.

  • Before bed, he pulls out his phone, fires up the Find My Friends app,

  • and sees that me and my two sisters are at home in our apartments.

  • And when he sees that, he sends a text to the family group chat that says something like,

  • ah, are my three little chickadees at home in their nests.

  • It's simple.

  • It's sweet.

  • It's the way he expresses his love.

  • And it's made possible by location sharing.

  • We recently asked you to tell us how location sharing affects your relationships,

  • and you filled our inbox with stories about the people you're sharing your location with, and the people you're not.

  • I share my location with a bunch of my friends and my parents and my brother.

  • We've been together for about three years.

  • We've shared locations since the start.

  • My ex-husband and I are still sharing location.