Win Hearts, Then Minds + Your Questions Answered on Identity and "Covering"

赢得人心,再启心智 + 关于身份与“伪装”的疑问解答

Hidden Brain

2025-06-24

1 小时 25 分钟
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There’s a saying that’s attributed to the Dalai Lama: in the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher. It’s a nice idea. But when people don’t share our values, it’s hard for us to tolerate theirs. This week, we bring you a favorite episode with sociologist Robb Willer. We discuss the common mistakes we make in trying to persuade others of our point of view — and how to break out of our echo chambers. Then, Kenji Yoshino answers your questions about how we hide our true selves. In this week’s show, you’ll learn: *What’s happening in our minds when we’re trying to win an argument. *Techniques for how to take another person’s perspective — and how to become more effective in persuading them of your perspective. *The most successful protest tactics in winning allies. *Why we might shift from trying to change someone’s mind to trying to change their behavior. If you love Hidden Brain, come see Shankar live in a city near you this summer! For more info and tickets to our “Perceptions” tour, visit https://hiddenbrain.org/tour/
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  • This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedanta.

  • Imagine you had a dispute with a neighbor.

  • It could be something trivial.

  • Maybe he's playing music too loudly late at night, and your kids cannot get to sleep.

  • The way we usually resolve these problems in daily life is to knock on our neighbor's door,

  • explain the problem, and try to find an amicable solution.

  • If all goes well, you discover you have similar tastes in music.

  • You swap playlists while getting him to keep the volume down at night.

  • Maybe you take over soup when he's unwell and he helps you on a cold morning when your car needs a jump.

  • Now imagine that this dispute takes place on a platform like X, formerly Twitter.

  • Instead of talking to your neighbor,

  • you throw open your window and tell all the people on your side of the street that your neighbor is a jerk.

  • Upset and offended,

  • he throws open his window which opens onto a different set of neighbors and tells those people that you're crazy.

  • Soon you're yelling at each other but really talking to completely different sets of people.

  • Every escalation is met with reprisal.

  • Each of you is certain the other must be dimwitted, malevolent or unhinged.

  • On social media Especially when it comes to political disagreements,

  • this is often what passes for discourse.

  • Platforms like X have called these shouting matches engagement,