“Your best self is the same as your worst self” (w/ Heather Havrilesky)

你的最好自己和最坏自己本就是一体(与希瑟·哈维列斯基)

How to Be a Better Human

自我完善

2025-06-09

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Heather Havrilesky is the author of the book Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage. She’s also the writer behind the advice columns “Ask Polly,” and “Ask Molly,” which is written by Polly’s mischievous alterego. In this episode, Heather and Chris navigate how to showcase your whole self – even if it means embracing the messy parts – and how leaning into contradictions can make you happier and healthier. They also discuss how most people’s twenties are a disaster, how to write in a way that feels true, and why it’s necessary to laugh at your own ridiculousness. Follow Host: Chris Duffy (Instagram: @chrisiduffy | chrisduffycomedy.com) Guest: Heather Havrilesky (Instagram: @heatherhav)  Links ask-polly.com Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage Subscribe to TED  Instagram: @ted YouTube: @TED TikTok: @tedtoks LinkedIn: @ted-conferences Website: ted.com Podcasts: ted.com/podcasts For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts Want to help shape TED’s shows going forward? Fill out our survey here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • You're listening to How to Be a Better Human.

  • I am your host, Chris Duffy.

  • What would it mean

  • if you were totally honest with yourself and other people about who you are and what it is that you want?

  • Well, for one thing, I feel certain that it would mean for me and for probably you too,

  • that we would be contradictory and messy and complex and we wouldn't always make sense.

  • But that messiness and that complexity,

  • that's exactly what today's guest, Heather Havrileski, is all about.

  • She's one of my favorite writers.

  • She is hilarious and sharp and so often beautifully eloquent about what it means to be human.

  • Whether Heather is writing a memoir about her marriage called Foreverland or writing one of her two advice columns,