The Wisdom of “We’ll See”: How to Stay Calm When Plans Change

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  Hey, welcome to Radio Headspace.

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  I'm Dora, and thank you so much for being here.

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  Now, it started as a simple idea.

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  I wanted to take a relaxing trip.

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  So naturally, I turned into a full-blown logistics machine.

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  I had spreadsheets, I researched every restaurant, I booked activities down to the hour.

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  I was feeling very pleased with myself, until I actually got there.

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  Within 24 hours, my flight got delayed,

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  my hotel lost my reservation, and it rained the entire time.

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  And instead of being relaxed, I spent the entire trip frustrated.

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  Not because things were bad, but because they weren't what I expected.

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  I kept thinking, this could have been perfect.

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  But could it?

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  We like to think control keeps us safe.

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  But what if our need to control things is actually what's making us suffer?

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  When things don't go as planned, we assume it's bad.

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  When things go right, we assume it's good.

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  But what if we don't actually know in the moment whether something is good or bad?

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  There's a Zen story that perfectly illustrates this.

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  There was once an old, wise farmer.

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