2025-01-14
22 分钟Punishment.
Can we raise good kids without punishing them?
Is punishment just necessary to raise the type of kids that become fully functioning adults?
This is a question I get all the time from parents.
And I want to just come out and say, I understand this question.
I understand the skepticism.
I think there's a lot underneath it.
because I think when we think about punishments on one side,
we assume the absence means permissive parenting on the other side,
and there's definitely something between.
But the reason this is really on my mind is I just got back from a work retreat.
It was with a bunch of founders.
We were talking about so many interesting topics,
and not surprisingly, the topic of parenting came up.
There was a small group of us chatting one night, and one of the dads in the group.
just started really challenging the idea that you could raise good,
well-behaved, resilient kids without punishment.
And I love this conversation.
It got really heated.
He was arguing that punishment is necessary to teach kids how the world works.