2024-12-29
5 分钟Hi, I'm Sam, and welcome to Radio Headspace and to Wednesday Morning.
So the other day,
I listened to one of the most memorable talks I've ever heard by one of my favorite Buddhist teachers,
Gil Fronsdal.
It was a talk he gave in 1994, and the theme was our relationship to time.
He started naming all the ways we talk about time, how we say we're running out of time,
or losing time, killing time, and keeping track of time.
And this got me reflecting on my own relationship to time.
Throughout my life, I've been what people adorably refer to as a time optimist.
I always think I have more time to get somewhere, finish a conversation,
or even finish writing a podcast episode than I really do.
And as you might imagine, I've had a chronic lateness problem throughout my life.
And I used to make excuses for this habit by looking at conditions that made it hard to be on time.
Sometimes I was late to my next meeting
because my previous client had a lot to unpack in our previous session,
and I just let it run longer than it needed to.
I had two big learning moments which dramatically shifted my relationship to time.
Someone once told me that by arriving late,
I was showing that I believed my time was more important than their time.
And at first this brought up some defensiveness, but then I saw what they meant.