A quick warning.
There are curse words that are unbeeped in today's episode of the show.
If you prefer a beeped version, you can find that at our website, thisamericanlife.org People are complicated.
That's my radical message for you today, America.
People contain their opposites.
I personally, for example, can be a good listener, helpful to others, and also, exactly the opposite, totally inattentive.
And I don't think I'm very unusual when it comes to all that.
In fact, something I always find kind of annoying is when people say, I'm a good person.
Oh, yeah, sure, I did whatever, but, you know, I'm a good person.
He, blah, blah, blah.
But he's a good person.
Really.
I think it says nothing real about you at all.
Because most of us are a mix of good and bad, right?
We have thoughtful days and we have annoyed days.
To me, somebody who says, I'm a good person is somebody who is not taking a very serious look at everything they do, who they look out for and who they neglect and all the things they could be doing for others if they really were so good.
To be clear, there are good people out there.
There are genuinely generous good people.
I've met them.
We've all met them.