The Sunday Read: ‘Online Dating After 50 Can Be Miserable. But It’s Also Liberating.’

《星期日报》读到:“50 岁以后网上约会可能会很痛苦。” 但这也是一种解放。”

The Daily

2024-08-04

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When Maggie Jones’s marriage collapsed after 23 years, she was devastated and overwhelmed. She was in her 50s, with two jobs, two teenage daughters and one dog. She didn’t consider dating. She had no time, no emotional energy. But then a year passed. One daughter was off at college, the other increasingly independent. After several more months went by, she started to feel a sliver of curiosity about what kind of men were out there and how it would feel to date again. The last time she dated was 25 years ago, and even then, she fell into relationships mostly with guys from high school, college, parties, work. Now every man she knew was either married, too young, too old or otherwise not a good fit. That meant online dating — the default mode not just for the young but also for people Ms. Jones’s age. Her only exposure had been watching her oldest daughter, home from college one summer, as she sat on her bed rapidly swiping through guy after guy — spending no more than a second or two on each. Ms. Jones tells her story of online dating in later adulthood, and what she learned.
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  • Hi, I'm Maggie Jones.

  • I'm a contributing writer for the New York Times Magazine.

  • I've written about the sex lives of many demographics, from teenagers to people in their eighties.

  • A few years ago, I wrote this big article about sex and aging,

  • and that, in part, led me to report the story you're going to hear today,

  • this week's Sunday read.

  • It's about the pleasures, frustrations, and freedoms of dating online when you're over 50 and single, a demographic that I myself am part of.

  • I wanted to tackle the ageist assumptions I've heard from several people in their teens, twenties, and thirties

  • these narratives that as we get older, we don't go about dating the same way younger people do, or that if you're single past 50, you're letting go of sex, or of falling in love again,

  • or that older single women are desperate to remarry.

  • None of that is true.