Hi there, it's Eve here.
Welcome to Radio Headspace.
It's Wednesday, and as always, I'm so grateful to have you with me.
So a few months ago, my husband was going through a really stressful time at work.
And he was telling me about this one particular challenge he was facing.
Naturally, I wanted to help.
So I went straight into fixing mode, offering advice,
telling him what I thought he should do, suggesting solutions left and right.
The problem was I wasn't listening to him properly.
He actually wasn't asking for my advice.
He didn't need me to fix anything for him.
He just needed to vent.
He needed someone to listen and let him work through his own feelings without judgment.
And he certainly did not need me to give him a to-do list of all the things he should try.
As humans, we're wired to want to help when we see someone struggling,
especially when it's someone we care about.
But often... that can make things worse.
It's really wonderful to want to help another person.
We feel this pull to offer solutions to ease their pain or frustration as quickly as possible.
The problem, though,