Dr. James Hollis: How to Find Your True Purpose & Create Your Best Life

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Huberman Lab

2024-05-13

2 小时 39 分钟
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In this episode, my guest is Dr. James Hollis, Ph.D., a Jungian psychoanalyst, renowned educator and author on finding and pursuing one’s unique purpose. Dr. Hollis is also an expert in the psychology of relationships and healing from trauma. We discuss how early family dynamics and social context create patterns of both adaptive and maladaptive behavior and internal narratives that, when examined, lead to better choices and a deeply fulfilling existence. We discuss discovering your unique self-identity and purpose through specific practices of reflection, meditation and conversations with others. We also discuss self-perception and the evolution of roles within marriages, parent-child relationships, and work. Throughout the episode, Dr. Hollis provides both basic knowledge and practical tools to help us assess ourselves and better understand who we are and what we really want in careers, relationships of all kinds, and society. For show notes, including referenced articles and additional resources, please visit hubermanlab.com. Use Ask Huberman Lab, our new AI-powered platform, for a summary, clips, and insights from this episode. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Mateína: https://drinkmateina.com/huberman Joovv: https://joovv.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman Waking Up: https://wakingup.com/huberman Momentous: https://livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Dr. James Hollis 00:02:14 Sponsors: Mateina, Joovv & BetterHelp 00:05:57 Self, Ego, Sense of Self 00:13:59 Unconscious Patterns, Blind Spots, Dreams; Psyche & Meaning 00:21:56 Second Half of Life, Purpose, Depression 00:25:37 Sponsor: AG1 00:27:08 Tool: Daily Reflection; Crisis 00:31:47 Families & Children, Permission & Burdens 00:37:27 Complex Identification, Self-Perception; Social Media & Borderline 00:41:55 Daily Stimulus Response, Listening to the Soul 00:45:40 Exiting Stimulus-Response, Loneliness, Burnout 00:51:19 Meditation & Perception, Reflection 00:54:58 Sponsor: Waking Up 00:56:15 Recognizing the “Shadow” & Adulthood 01:02:48 Socialization; Family & Life Journey 01:09:04 Relationships & “Otherness”, Standing Your Ground 01:15:51 Marriage, “Starter Marriages” & Evolution; Parenting 01:19:37 Shadow Issues, Success & External Reward, Personal Growth 01:27:59 Men, Alcohol, “Stoic Man”, Loneliness, Fear & Longing 01:37:33 Women & Men, Focused vs. Diffuse Awareness; Male Rite of Passage 01:44:31 Sacrifice, Relationships; Facing Fears 01:48:20 Therapy, “Abyss of the Self”, Repeating Patterns & Stories 01:55:17 Women, Career & Family, Partner Support; Redefining Roles 02:01:40 Pathology & Diagnosis, Internet 02:07:05 Life, Suffering & Accountability, “Swamplands” & Task 02:11:32 Abuse & Recovery of Self, Patience, Powerlessness 02:14:11 Living a Larger Life; “Shut Up, Suit Up, Show Up” 02:17:49 Life Stages; Despair & Integrity Conflict 02:25:00 Death, Ego, Mortality & Meaning 02:38:07 Zero-Cost Support, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer
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  • Welcome to the Huberman Lab podcast, where.

  • We discuss science and science based tools for everyday life.

  • I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine.

  • My guest today is Doctor James Hollis.

  • Doctor James Hollis is a jungian psychoanalyst and author of more than 17 books about the self, relationships, and how to create the best possible life.

  • Some of the notable titles and topics of those books include creating a life, finding your individual path, as well as the Eden project in search of the magical other, which, as the name suggests, is about relationships.

  • He has also written about how to access our most resilient self in the book entitled living between finding personal resilience in changing times during today's discussion, Doctor Hollis teaches us what questions we need to ask of ourselves on a regular basis in order to best understand who we really are and what we most desire at the level of vocation, romantic relationships, friendship, and family, and indeed, in relationship to life's journey.

  • What you'll quickly realize during today's discussion with Doctor Hollis is that while yes, he is trained as a jungian psychoanalyst, he is also very firmly grounded in practical tools.

  • That is, he teaches us the simple and yet practical tools that we can each and all apply on a daily basis in order to make sure that we are staying on our best path.

  • We discuss how family dynamics that we grew up in, as well as trauma and attachment styles, combine with our unique gifts and indeed our shadow side as well, in order to drive us down particular trajectories in life that sometimes lead us where we want to go, but other times lead us astray.

  • And when they do, how to get back on track today's conversation with Doctor Hollis is truly a special one, in that he rarely does podcast appearances.

  • In fact, we traveled to him to record this podcast.

  • That's how motivated I was to be able to sit down with him, because I'm familiar with his many books and his incredible teachings.

  • But I really wanted to get his knowledge collected in one format, in one place.

  • And what I can promise you is that by the end of today's podcast, you will be thinking differently about yourself, about the people in your life, and indeed life itself.

  • Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize that this podcast is separate from my teaching and research roles at Stanford.

  • It is, however, part of my desire and effort to bring zero cost to consumer information about science and science related tools to the general public.

  • In keeping with that theme, I'd like to thank the sponsors of today's podcast.

  • Our first sponsor is Matina.

  • Matina makes loose leaf and ready to drink yerba mate I've long been a fan of yerba mate as a source of caffeine, in part because of its high antioxidant content as well as its ability to elevate glucagon like peptide one or glp one, which leads to a slight appetite suppressing effect as well as its ability to regulate blood sugar and possible neuroprotective effects.