Dump Your Inner Drill Sergeant

甩掉你内心的教官

The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

2021-01-04

36 分钟
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We often start a new year hoping to make big changes in how we look, feel or act. This can involve a lot of self-criticism and adopting things like tough diets and brutal exercise regimes. But being hard on ourselves doesn't deliver results. Dr Laurie Santos examines why being a nasty drill sergeant to ourselves is less effective than being a kind coach; and hears from researcher and author Kristin Neff about why developing self-compassion is vital to helping us achieve our new year goals. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • Pushkin.

  • Hello Happiness Lab listeners and welcome to 2021.

  • If you're like me, you're probably hoping that the next 12 months will be a lot better than the year we just had.

  • You may even be considering changes you can make in your own life.

  • And of course, you're not alone.

  • Lots of people will be adopting New Year's resolutions this January to alter the way they look, think, and behave.

  • Now, don't get me wrong.

  • I think making changes in our lives, especially at fresh start moments like the new year, is a great idea.

  • The problem is, if we're not careful, our lying minds may wind up leading us off in the wrong direction, telling us to do things that will make us less happy than we think, or picking strategies that will make us lose morale and give up before we even get started.

  • The big temptation at this time of year is to be really hard on yourself.

  • to ruthlessly identify all the faults of your past, to set the bar super high for what you want to achieve, and to set out on some surprisingly punishing regimes in order to reach your goals.

  • I know this temptation well.

  • I fall for it all the time, but the science just doesn't back it up.

  • Strict diets, brutal exercise plans, and going cold turkey on the personal habits you want to shed, these strategies just don't work.

  • But there is good news.

  • because the psychological research points to a more effective path over the next four episodes of this special season.

  • I'll explain why the secret to fulfilling all your New Year's goals is simply to be nicer to ourselves.

  • If you're ready to learn more and kick those bad habits through kindness, then join me, Dr.

  • Laurie Santos, as the Happiness Lab presents our mini-season on smart strategies for achieving your New Year's goals.

  • If I constantly told you that you were lazy, stupid, and unfit, that you weren't really good at your job and that your house was a terrible mess, you'd probably switch off this podcast.