2021-04-19
29 分钟Pushkin.
Whenever I get sideswiped by events in life that suck,
if I get sick or get a dent in my car or lose my keys,
I try to remember the Stoics,
the ancient philosophers who taught that we shouldn't just surrender to ill fortune.
We should embrace the setbacks of life and feel pride in our ability to cheerfully bounce back.
But sometimes that isn't so easy,
especially when the tragedy that befalls you is the fault of another person.
When people around us cause us hurt,
it's hard not to become fixated on them and their act of wrongdoing.
We might feel affronted, angry, or even betrayed.
We almost certainly will want justice for that person to pay some price or make amends for what they've done to us.
But in most situations you'll face at home, at school,
or in the workplace, that justice usually won't come.
So we can end up carrying the negative emotions.
We ruminate over our injury.
We stay angry with the perpetrator.
and even risk letting the situation poison our closest relationships with grudges and feuds.
And if you're thinking that none of this sounds like a recipe for a happier life, then you're right.
The science, unsurprisingly,