When Guilt is Good... and When it's Not

什么时候内疚是好的……什么时候不好

The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

2022-02-07

33 分钟
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If you've done something wrong, feelings of guilt can prompt us to apologise, make amends and change our ways. But many of us also feel guilty with little cause. We may think we're bad parents, lazy or incompetent workers, or unreliable partners - all without much evidence that we've done anything wrong. Life coach Valorie Burton (author of Let Go Of The Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up And Take Back Your Joy) felt guilty for combining her career with raising a family - until she started examining the values and assumptions that underpinned these draining feelings. She shares the strategies she developed to separate 'true' guilt from 'false' guilt with Dr Laurie Santos. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • Pushkin Nearly every night before I head to bed,

  • I pull out my little red date book and update my to-do list for the next day.

  • The list is usually pretty long, but if I actually put down everything I wanted to get done,

  • it would probably sound something like this.

  • Meditate for 10 minutes.

  • Go to a yoga class.

  • Prep for my happiness course.

  • Bring the car in for an oil change.

  • Think about some cool new guests for the podcast.

  • Don't get behind on that inbox.

  • Get in some quality time with my husband.

  • Make time to have more fun.

  • Get eight hours of sleep.

  • And so on.

  • Now, when I think about it rationally,

  • I realize it's literally impossible to get all those things done in a single day.

  • But no matter how much I do, I constantly feel bad about how much I didn't do.

  • And that is the awful, yucky, not good enough feeling that we'll be digging into today.

  • Because in this episode, in our season on difficult emotions, we're going to examine guilt.

  • I think guilt showed up in a lot of ways for me that I wasn't even noticing as guilt,