Text a Friend... Right Now!

给朋友发短信...现在!

The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

2023-10-16

26 分钟
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When did you last check in on a friend? Maybe the last time you did, their reply was terse or non-existent. Perhaps months or years have passed and you feel awkward about reestablishing contact? Or you might worry they're busy and you're just bothering them? Andy Salkind tells Dr Laurie Santos that you should forget your worries - and just TEXT THEM! After all, a simple message from a friend saved his life.  WARNING: This episode deals with depression and suicidality. If you’re based in the US, you can call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Similar services are available in pretty much every other country. So, if you need help, please, please reach out.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • Pushkin.

  • When I was going through my 20s, early 30s, it was very easy to be passively friends,

  • because most people will never tell you the honest truth of what's going on.

  • This is Andy Salkind.

  • As you've probably noticed from his accent, Andy is British.

  • The country he's from isn't exactly known for its emotional openness.

  • But no matter where you're from,

  • I'm guessing you may be able to resonate with Andy's experience of friendship.

  • We'll all just go, you're right.

  • And people will go, yeah, because I'm fine.

  • But a few years ago, Andy decided to make a big change.

  • He decided to stop being so passive with the people he cared about.

  • I now feel more active in every friendship I have.

  • If a friend who seems like they're having a tough day says,

  • I'm fine, Andy will reply, are you all right?

  • You don't seem all right.

  • Andy's also increased the frequency with which he checks in on people.

  • He texts his friends regularly, even those who don't always write back.

  • Sometimes they need prompting.

  • If Andy hasn't heard from a friend in a while,